Son, there is only one King

Son, sit down here for a minute or two. Let’s talk about what happened last night and what that really means in the big picture of your life. Son….there is only one “King”.

You and I both love sports Son. Maybe it’s my fault. Since the time you were born, I have programmed you to follow athletes, teams and sports. I wrapped you in the colors of the Tar Heels and Cavaliers in your bassinet. I clothed you in team colors and we’ve spent many hours breaking down our teams rise and fall. We’ve hung the posters on your walls (and mine). We’ve worn the hats, the jerseys and even the shoes. We have made a significant emotional investment and that is why today, you hurt. “The King” has left your team and this morning you’re mad. Son, there is only one King and he won’t leave you or forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)

Son, “the king” that made “the decision” last night was just a man. A very talented man that God has gifted with amazing ability on the basketball court. We’ve both enjoyed watching him do fascinating things. He’s given us great memories and I’ve enjoyed sharing them with you. But Son, he is just a man. A human man with free will. No matter how much we hope, he will most likely let us down. There is only one King.

Son, I’ve noticed how many times you do what I do. You want to go where I go, wear what I wear and love what I love. There is no higher honor as your Dad then to know that you feel that way about me. But Son, I too am human. I’ve probably let you down and most likely will again. There is only one King.

Remember that story about the little guy that killed the big giant with a slingshot and stone? His people made him a king too. They danced and shouted his praises. They loved him. He was even “a man after God’s own heart” (Acts 13:22). He rose to great fame and at a high point in his “career” he made a big mistake (2 Samuel 11). He responded by making an even bigger mistake to cover up his bad choice. He failed. He was human too. There is only one King.

The King I keep referring to didn’t play basketball (that I’m aware of). He was, however, perfect. He didn’t promote himself but in the end the people were mad at him too. His “career” was spent doing things that no one can do. He is the one we should most want to be like. He won’t be on the cover of Sports Illustrated or ESPN, but He is who we worship today and will be who we worship when our days on earth are over. Unlike athletes and stars that say they gave everything, He did. He did that so you and I can spend eternity in His presence. We will trade in our team colors and jerseys for a robe that He earned on a hill, not a basketball court. There is only one KING.

I know you can’t see this King, but He is with you. He is with you today as you feel sad about the other king letting you down. He is with you when I disappoint you. He is with you when you make a bad decision like that king David did. He will be with you then and we will be with Him forever.

Son, there is only one King.

Dad…I’m Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

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Dad…I'm Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

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Me and my big mouth

As Father’s Day approaches, I got a lesson in humility and a reminder that little ears are never too far away. Without going into a lot of details, let me just put it this way – if you need a disclaimer that says “what Mommy and I say here stays here”, then it is probably something that just shouldn’t be said. The problem is that as I have gotten older, I have become more opinionated. Maybe I was opinionated before, but now I am more vocal in stating my opinion. While it may be good to be “real” or “honest”, there are some things that just shouldn’t be said.

Yesterday I was informed that “the boy” had apparently expressed some opinions to some other kids that sounded like something I would have said. Now if you know “the boy”, you know that he is a child of VERY few words. Even around his friends. So I’m still not 100% sure I believe my source on this supposed incident, but I have to be his dad and address it nonetheless. That was where it got painful to me…as well it should be.

I began our conversation by explaining that I have a big mouth. I explained that before we even talked about the “incident” I need to apologize to him for not keeping MY opinions to myself and thus putting those thoughts in his mind as well. I explained that I needed to learn from this and do a better job of keeping my thoughts and opinions to myself. I then told him I was sorry. We addressed the incident (which he also denies happened by the way) and moved on. If the incident in question really occurred, I’m glad we addressed it. The good feelings ended there though.

I spent the rest of the evening wrestling with my inability to keep my words under control. They aren’t malicious or mean, they are just my view or opinion.That doesn’t translate to 9 year old understanding and interpretation the same and that is why I need to be more careful in choosing my words. Lesson learned.

That’s all I have to say about that……

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Pomp and Circumstance

As odd as this may sound, this blog and my youngest child will always have an interesting connection. You see, I started this crazy thing over 5 years ago to keep family and friends informed about the upcoming birth of our child. So as she has grown, I like to hope that this silly blog has too. I’m not sure the writing is any better (matter of fact, I think I have regressed), but we have sure evolved. Today…”we” graduated. Our baby (the child…not the blog) walked across the stage and moved from pre-schooler to Kindergardener.

I can’t believe I just typed that…

In true 3rd child fashion, when we took the camera out, the battery was dead (hey, at least we remembered it!!!). So we had to resort to “Plan B” (free plug for Pete Wilson’s book included) and went with the cell phone. For those that have been around the blog from our early beginnings, enjoy this moment. For those that know and love our baby girl as much as we do, enjoy this clip too. Our last pre-school graduation…(gulp)

Pomp and Circumstance

As odd as this may sound, this blog and my youngest child will always have an interesting connection. You see, I started this crazy thing over 5 years ago to keep family and friends informed about the upcoming birth of our child. So as she has grown, I like to hope that this silly blog has too. I’m not sure the writing is any better (matter of fact, I think I have regressed), but we have sure evolved. Today…”we” graduated. Our baby (the child…not the blog) walked across the stage and moved from pre-schooler to Kindergardener.

I can’t believe I just typed that…

In true 3rd child fashion, when we took the camera out, the battery was dead (hey, at least we remembered it!!!). So we had to resort to “Plan B” (free plug for Pete Wilson’s book included) and went with the cell phone. For those that have been around the blog from our early beginnings, enjoy this moment. For those that know and love our baby girl as much as we do, enjoy this clip too. Our last pre-school graduation…(gulp)

The White Horse

We’re a music family. Well actually, I am a music fanatic so the rest of the family doesn’t have much of a choice. It’s usually always on and most times, I’m singing it. My girls, as most girls, have taken a liking to Taylor Swift. I’m okay with that and (man card alert) sorta dig her CD. So the other night we were singing the words to “White Horse” and that’s when it happened….

My 7 Year old (Princess #1) – I don’t know what that song means. What’s it about?

Me – It’s about getting your heart broken

Princess #1 – What does it mean to get your heart broken

Me – I hope you never find out…..

No sooner had the words left my mouth did it hit me….she will. No matter what I do, no matter how hard I try, there is nothing I can do about it. I thought about locking her away with her younger sister in a high tower with nothing but a spinning wheel, but I’m not aware of any large castles in our town. I could get all legalistic and crazy, start a shotgun collection and impose the wrath on whatever boy steps foot on my property, but that would probably get me arrested. What scares me is that there will be boys and I was….well…a boy once too.

It keeps me up at night….

There was a lot of grace involved in my years as a teenager, college and even after that. I’ve got to keep that in mind. I know one day a boy, with a white horse (preferably a Ford Mustang) will show up in my driveway. This is where I lean into grace, the way we’re bringing her up now and let go of the handlebars. I pray I am showing her love so she won’t seek it. I pray I’m giving her purpose, confidence and wisdom. Because I know one day the white horse will arrive and ride her away. If she returns with a broken heart I’ll kill him we’ll help her mend it and prepare it for the one that won’t break it.

And pray a lot…..

A Lesson In Grace

Sippy Cup Overload
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Last night I received a lesson and hopefully taught one as well. It was the bedtime hour and I was putting the kiddo’s to bed. My youngest daughter requested some juice in a sippy cup to place beside her bed. She got used to doing this during a recent battle with the flu so I didn’t mind agreeing to said request. My middle child heard the request and decided she would like a little bedside refreshment as well. One problem…she has been known to sleep right on through her “potty alarm”….if you know what I mean.

Knowing that she would have this “issue” and trying to avoid a further problem, I kindly explained that she probably shouldn’t as it might lead to her wetting the bed. Since I am a softie when it comes to my girls, the hour was late and I didn’t have it in me to argue…you guessed it, she got a sippy cup too. Everyone went to bed without a hitch and I enjoyed the next 2 hours of catching up on some work in my home office. That’s when it happened.

Small footsteps

Sleepy child walking in my office

Quivering lower bottom lip

Embarrassment on her little face

A tear forming in her eye

Decision time for daddy…..

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Cake For Breakfast

As I posted earlier this week, we had a birthday in our home for our littlest child on Wednesday. Since the event coincided with our House Church we purchased a large sheet cake to celebrate the event. One of Gods greatest gifts is birthday cake. Specifically the four corner pieces. Nothing makes me happier than a corner piece of birthday cake. Especially for breakfast. Wash it down with a Diet Coke and you really know how to kick off the day!

This morning as I cut a piece of cake (so the children wouldn’t see) , this classic clip from Bill Cosby just kept ringing in my head.

Fatherhood Friday

The guys over at Dad-Blogs.com do a very cool thing every Friday to coordinate posts from some of the many Dads that blog out there. This is my first entry on a Fatherhood Friday but hopefully something I will be able to do each week. I’m up to my ears in conference calls today so this post will be short and sweet…..literally.

Basically it was a conversation that took place with our youngest child a few weeks ago. Those that know our youngest daughter know that she is a bit of  a card. She keeps us in stitches and is the one at the dinner table that provides the evening entertainment. She is also 4 years old…

So a few weeks ago, I picked her up from school (which is one of my favorite Daddy moments and one I don’t get to do often enough). As we were leaving the school, the following exchange took place.

Her: “Dad, I am now part of the Zip-Zip Club”

Me: “That is great! What is the Zip-Zip Club?”

Her: “It’s for all of the kids that can zip up their own coat”

Me: “Hey, I can zip up my own coat. Can I be a part of the Zip-Zip Club?”

Her: “Um Dad…It’s a small club”

Maybe you had to be there, but her response was priceless. I guess it takes more than just being able to zip up your coat to hang in the Zip-Zip Club. I’m also sure it won’t be the last time I won’t be invited to hang with one of my kids in their exclusive clubs. So it begins….

If The Boy Was President…

DSC00457“The Boy” sent me a Power Point presentation that he put together this morning. Yes, you read that correctly. My 9 year old actually put together an entire Power Point. That amazes me because I work with grown adults that don’t know how to use that program. I did not assist him or help with this at all. It came straight from his mind. It was too good to not pass along this morning. Hope it makes you all laugh like it did for me:

“If I Were President” by “The Boy”

– I would make cotton candy for breakfast.

– I would make no bed times so you could stay up all night.

– I would make your birthday everyday.

– I would make video games $1.00.

– I would make your pay day $100,000,900.

– I would make the basketball hoop 5 foot not 10 foot.

– I would make school’s have 17 weeks off of school and then 1 day of school and then 17 weeks off.

– I would also make flat screen tv’s only $5.00

– I would make PSP’s free for everybody.

– I would make there be 20 feet of snow and basketball cards are a penny.

I would make the North Carolina Tar Heels the best team in every sport.

– I would make instead of regular slide I would make a water slide. That would be sweet.

– You could meet Lebron James and Kobe Bryant.

– I would make tickets to games like basketball, baseball football and tennis games free.

I would make Duke University the worst team in everything.

– I would make these little robots that would correctly answer every question on your math test. And you would just say something and then I would happen. For example, you would say I would like some hot chocolate and then it would be right there

– I would make a pool in everyone’s house.

– I would make your backyard 1,000 feet.

– I would make no math at school and just playing outside, lunch, writing and reading.

– THE END.

Now THAT is change we can believe in!!!

Where I'll Be on Saturday

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On Saturday morning, my good friend Brian and I are headed back to Indianapolis. In what is becoming an annual tradition, we are taking our 2 oldest children to the All Pro Dad Colts Father and Kids Experience. Last year we took them to the same event but visited the home of the Cincinnati Bengals. It was a great time of connection, affirmation and fun with our little ones. On several occasions over the past year, my son and oldest daughter have both asked when the next All Pro Dad days is. Being that Brian is a diehard Colts fan and I am what you would call a “frontrunner” fan (they are 7-0!!), we were first in line to sign up for this location. While I don’t claim to be an All Pro Dad, here are the 10 ways to strive for that:

1. Love Your Wife

2. Spend time with your children

3. Be a Role Model

4. Understand Your Children

5. Show Affection

6. Enjoy Your Children

7. Eat Together As A Family

8. Discipline With a Gentle Spirit

9. Pray and Worship Together

10. Realize You’re a Father Forever

Dad’s – If you think you don’t have time for something like this…I would argue that we don’t have ENOUGH times like this. This is the best investment you can ever make. “It won’t be like this for long…..”

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Because…A Letter To My Son

 

In the morning, our son will officially celebrate his 9th birthday. I can’t even type those words without wondering where the last 9 years went. I can’t seem to get my mind around how quickly it has flown by. What scares me even more is that when that time frame goes by again, he’ll be officially an “adult”. In honor of his birthday, I thought I would post this letter I wrote to him in March of 2005. The words still ring true today. To “the boy” I want to say Happy Birthday. Thank you for making the last 9 years of my life something I never knew I was missing and so much more. I love you son.

Because…..A Letter To My Son

Because you are my son
Because I am proud to be your father
Because I will never forget the day you were born
Because you are more beautiful than I could have imagined
Because you were “fearfully and wonderfully made”
Because I am your hero
Because someday, you will be mine
Because “I want to go with daddy”
Because you have taught me how our heavenly father loves His children.

Because you have my hands and feet
Because you have your mother’s eyes
Because you love your sisters and mother as much as I do
Because, no matter what, you always love me..
Because no matter what, I will always love you
Because you greet the world with “Arms Wide Open”
Because I can’t wait to watch you grow and learn
Because of stories at night and breakfast in the morning
Because you always remind us at dinner to “say our prayers”

Because I can protect you at times
Because there are times when I cannot protect you
Because we serve a God that watches during ALL of those times
Because the things of the past
Because the future to come.

I love you my precious son.