All Pro Dad Day

Yesterday morning my three kids and I loaded up the van and took the 3 hour journey to Indianapolis for an event we always look forward to. All Pro Dad, a foundation started by Tony Dungy, is an organization dedicated to coaching Dads to spend time with their children. This was our third time attending a Father Kids Experience and second time in Indianapolis (we went to Cincinnati the first year). This was also the first time our youngest was able to go. The event is broken down into coaching stations where you learn a football drill, and then hear a brief message about family. This event featured Colts Head Coach Jim Caldwell and All Pro Dad co-founder Clyde Christensen.

The event is great, but spending an entire day with just me and the kids is what memories are made of. It also gave my wife a day all to herself. If you are not currently plugged into an All Pro Dad, or receiving their daily email, I highly recommend them both. I would also like to thank All Pro Dad for the complimentary admission into the event. We’ll cherish it forever!

Dad…I'm Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

Continue reading “Dad…I'm Watching You”

Dad…I’m Watching You

10 Ways To Be An All Pro Dad

Love Your Wife
True love is not a feeling. It is a decision. It’s an act of the will to be patient, kind, humble, hopeful, giving, faithful and trusting. When you commit to loving your wife this way, your feelings for her, and hers for you, will follow. Actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is to know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her well-being.

Spend Time With Your Kids
How you spend your time reflects what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. You don’t need to wait for the perfect time, when you can take a vacation or an afternoon off from work. Instead, grab those small pockets of time as they present themselves throughout the day. Call your kids on your cell phone between appointments just to say “hi.” Send them an e-mail from work. Read to them at bedtime. Carve out a few minutes to help them with their homework. Go to breakfast and drop them off at school. Grab every moment you can get with your children.

Be a Role Model
It’s impossible to underestimate the importance of a father modeling the type of behavior he desires to see in his children. Role models don’t just talk the talk; they walk the walk of an honorable man. A great place to start is consistency. Do you keep your word? Do you stand up for what is right, even when it costs you? Are you trustworthy? Are you loyal in your relationships? Be what you want your children to be!

Continue reading “Dad…I’m Watching You”

All Pro Dad Experience

Talk about a full day! For the second weekend in a row we loaded up the car and headed west…to Indianapolis. My good friend Brian and I had the opportunity to take part in the All Pro Dad Experience hosted by the Indianapolis Colts. Featured guests were Colts Head Coach Jim Caldwell, Clyde Christensen and Receiver Pierre Garcon. We spent 3 hours making an investment in our little ones that we hope will be remembered for years to come.

[showtime]

Where I'll Be on Saturday

11563_1261361539935_1406592172_793396_4005959_n

On Saturday morning, my good friend Brian and I are headed back to Indianapolis. In what is becoming an annual tradition, we are taking our 2 oldest children to the All Pro Dad Colts Father and Kids Experience. Last year we took them to the same event but visited the home of the Cincinnati Bengals. It was a great time of connection, affirmation and fun with our little ones. On several occasions over the past year, my son and oldest daughter have both asked when the next All Pro Dad days is. Being that Brian is a diehard Colts fan and I am what you would call a “frontrunner” fan (they are 7-0!!), we were first in line to sign up for this location. While I don’t claim to be an All Pro Dad, here are the 10 ways to strive for that:

1. Love Your Wife

2. Spend time with your children

3. Be a Role Model

4. Understand Your Children

5. Show Affection

6. Enjoy Your Children

7. Eat Together As A Family

8. Discipline With a Gentle Spirit

9. Pray and Worship Together

10. Realize You’re a Father Forever

Dad’s – If you think you don’t have time for something like this…I would argue that we don’t have ENOUGH times like this. This is the best investment you can ever make. “It won’t be like this for long…..”

httpvhd://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QAhpbYpfxOY

Thank You Tony Dungy

Tony Dungy announced today that he is going to retire as head coach of the Indianapolis Colts. To me, the announcement is happy/sad kind of news. I’m happy for Tony Dungy that he did it his way. He will exit the coaching business with the same “Quiet Strength” which he entered.  I’m sad because the NFL needs more Tony Dungy’s. The world needs more Tony Dungy’s. His book “Quiet Strength” sits atop my favorite books list and his name sits atop the people I would like to spend 5 minutes with list. He is class and lives a life that models Jesus. Thank you Tony Dungy. Below are some of my random favorite quotes from the book “Quiet Strength

“How would your business do if you spent the amount of time on it that you spend on your wife and family?”

“What will people remember us for? Are other people’s lives better because we lived? Did we make a difference? Did we use to the fullest the gifts and abilities God gave us? Did we give our best effort, and did we do it for the right reasons?”

“God’s definition of success is really one of significance-the significant difference our lives can make in the lives of others. The significance doesn’t show up in won-loss records, long resumes, or the trophies gathering dust on our mantels. It’s found in the hearts and lives of those we’ve come across who are in some way better because of the way we lived.”

“I think people look more closely at our actions in the rough times, when the emotions are raw and our guard is down. That’s when our true character shows and we find out if our faith is real. If I’m going to call myself a Christian, I have to honor Jesus in the disappointments, too.”

Talent is God-given; be thankful.
Praise is man-given; be humble.
Conceit is self-given; be careful. (Dave Driscoll)

Early Shopping Recommendation

I mentioned this book in a previous post, but I finished it today and just have to recommend it again. In case you missed it, I was given a copy of “The Difference A Father makes” by Ed Tandy McGlasson at the All Pro Dad event I attended last weekend. What an incredible, incredible jewel this book is. I finally had to get a pen out of my bag to underline line after line of great wisdom and knowledge as I read it. I folded the corner of just about every other page.

As to not take anything away from what Ed has written, I just want to recommend the book. There are principles and suggestions which any and every father can take and utilize. Particulary as our kids get older. There is one concept in particular that I absolutley love and cannot wait to apply when the kids are old enough. What an amazing blessing this short book was to me today. Great stuff.

If you’re interested in a preview, you can download one chapter at Ed Tandy McGlassen’s web site (lower right corner).  Wives, get it for your husbands. Sisters, get it for your brothers. Children, get it for your Dad. Dads, get it for yourself. Believe me, you will be glad you did. It’s a quick read that quite possibly will change the way you talk, think and raise your kids.

Special thanks to Ed Tandy McGlassen for accepting Gods call on his life and to All Pro Dad for the gift. Hopefully others will pass on the gift to their Dads, husbands, brothers and friends.

APD Father Kid Experience Day

Tomorrow my good friend Brian and I are taking a road trip with our oldest children to the All Pro Dad Father & Kids Experience in Cincinnati. The event is at Paul Brown Stadium where the Bengals used to play. As an added bonus, we’re hoping to catch up with fellow bloggers and friends Rindy, Matt and Paul Peterson before we head north to go home. I’m sure I’ll have a wrap up sometime next week too.

It's Back!

Saturday, September 13th is the officail launch date of this years All Pro Dad gatherings at Chick-Fil-a. A big thanks to my friend Tom Minturn for again supporting All Pro Dad. More details coming soon, but mark your calendards Dads (and Moms). We’re kicking off at 8:30am on the 13th.

Some Links:

All Pro Dad
Our All Pro Dad page
Download a handout to pass the word (here)

Why we do what we do:

“The Living Years” by Russ Lee

You Can Do It!

For those fans of the book “Quiet Strength” by Tony Dungy, here is something new to consider. Tony has put together a story book for children called “You Can Do It”. You can find all of the details and ordering information (HERE). Quiet Strength continues to sit atop the “Arms Wide Open Best Book I ever read list”. For those that have not read it yet, it is now available in paperback. Praise the Lord for Tony Dungy!

Somewhere, someone read that title and shouted out a Rob Schneider “Water Boy” reference. I just know it….

I said…You heard…

img_3956.jpgKids and lessons from our Heavenly Father go hand in hand don’t they? The timing is sometimes scary. This morning was one of those moments. Let me explain.

Last night as I tucked my daughter into bed, we were discussing “All Pro Dad” (APD) on Saturday. She gets very excited every month to attend APD. So when she awoke this morning, she was all excited to go. One problem, APD is on Saturday and today is Wednesday. I tried to explain that to her but it didn’t seem to help her disappointment. I explained that “I said it was on Saturday. You heard it was tomorrow”. Her excitement led her to believe the thing she wanted to do would be here right away.

Hmmm ever been there? Almost audibly, I sensed God saying “sound familiar?”. Lesson learned. It was almost as if our Heavenly Father said “I said wait, you heard now”. I believe that God speaks to us in many ways. I also believe that my time table hears and sees those answers coming faster, easier and when I want them. “I said…you heard”.

Lord give me patience in my excitement in what I know you have in store for me. While I rush to have it happen in my time frame, may you grant me the patience and understanding in yours.

You Said” by Hillsong

Saturday's All Pro Dad Day!

Wow…where did March go? A new month must mean that this Saturday is another All Pro Dad day. The topic this month is “Caring for the less fortunate“. We are privileged to have a guest speaker from Faith Mission in Columbus, Ohio with us. He will share a little bit about Faith Mission, but even more exciting is what will happen between our meetings in April and May.

Based on the information from our guest speaker, Dads and kids will have the opportunity to spend the month gathering needed items and raising awareness of the less fortunate in our community. For our May meeting, we will meet briefly to have some breakfast and spend some time with the kids. From there we will caravan to Faith Mission to deliver the items that we gathered throughout the month to those less fortunate.

Dads, this is your opportunity to get creative with your kids and teach lessons that they can carry with them for a lifetime. It is my hope that we can give our children a glimpse at one way we can be “Hands and Feet” in our community. If you have yet to attend one of our All Pro Dad days, this is a great time to start. If you are interested in attending, feel free to send me an email for more information! See you on Saturday.

The Less Fortunate

img_compassion365b.jpgThe topic for All Pro Dad in the month of April (April 5th) is “Caring for the less fortunate“. I’d like to compile a list of the places and organizations that people contribute to for the Dads and their kids. They can be local organizations or opportunities to give across the world. I’m also looking for ideas and creative ways that Dad’s and their kids can make a difference in the life of someone less fortunate. It doesn’t always have to be money. Your responses and ideas are much appreciated!

So…What are some ways that you care for the less fortunate?

Surely We Can Change…Something” by David Crowder Band

My All Pro Dad Notes

Want a sneak peak at my notes for tomorrows topic of “Your Relationship with Your Dad”? Here’s a glimpse:

I thank you for the music and your stories of the road
I thank you for the freedom when it came my time to go
I thank you for the kindness and the times when you got tough
And “Papa” I don’t think I said I love you near enough.
-Dan Folgelberg (The Leader of The Band)

I wasn’t there the morning
when my father passed away.
I didn’t get to tell him
all the things I had to say
I think I caught his spirit
later that same year
I’m sure I heard his echo
in my new born babies tears
I just wish I could have told him
In the living years.
-Mike and the Mechanics (The Living Years)

I will treasure the heart
and the finer things within it
And I know as he would have it
I will lay aside the bad
Of all the things that I could still become
I could do a whole lot worse
Than turning into Dad.
-Wayne Watson (Turning into Dad)

I’m gonna wrap my arms around my Daddy’s neck
and tell him that I’ve missed him
Tell him all about the man that I became
and hope that it pleased him
There’s so much I want to say
There’s so much I wanted you to know
When I finally make it home.
-MercyMe (Finally Home)

For the full context, or to find out more you’ll have to be there tomorrow. Same time, same sandbox!